"A good leader inspires others with confidence in him; a great leader inspires them with confidence in themselves." Unknown. Have you ever seen someone else's greatness, but they just can't see it themselves?
My mom was a well known and respected real estate broker and business owner a few decades back. She was really really good at selling homes. When I was fresh out of college, my job was to be a real estate trainer for her real estate agency. I didn't know the first thing about real estate so I would follow my mother around and observe her in action. She was masterful. I was able to see her quickly pick up if there was a glimmer of excitement in a buyers eye when they walked into a house, or if they had no interest. If she detected a spark, she would walk into the room and stand at the exact angle that would show the room off in its best light. Then, she would begin placing their furniture in the room. "Oh, wouldn't your grand piano look wonderful in that corner? And can you see your large family portrait over that lovely fireplace? She knew how to emotionally engage her customer in the house that she knew was their house. She was a pro.
The odd thing was, she had no idea that she was doing any of that. I pointed it out and she would giggle and say; "I guess I do do that!" When you use your gifts and talents in a way that only you can, you are in a high performing zone. You may feel like you are in a zone, but you many not know why or even what you are doing to be there.
The key is, if you know what you are doing to be in that zone, then you can put yourself in the zone more often and on purpose.
If you want to be a dream partner for someone, give them the gift of pointing out their greatness when you see it. Let them know what you are impressed with about them, how they do things in a way that no one else can. It will inspire confidence that will propel them forward. Also, when someone points out something that you do that impresses them, take it in. It's important data for you to actually know your greatness. Not just that you have talent and gifts in a certain area, but exactly what you do that demonstrates them.
Take stock in your greatness today AND inspire confidence by pointing out someone else's greatness. Here’s a step to take in that direction. Call up your closest dream partner and ask them these questions:
What do you see me bringing to the table? What have you observed that I do that is really helpful, great, or unique? What do I do that I should do more often? THEN, do the same for them!