How to Be and Get Dream Partners for Success: Secret #19 Stop Wishing and Start Believing.

“Keep your dreams alive. Understand to achieve anything requires faith and belief in yourself, vision, hard work, determination, and dedication. Remember all things are possible for those who believe.” Gail Devers. I have been wrestling with this post for weeks. I’m not really sure why, but I have set about to write it 3 posts ago, and I am finally putting this out there. This one may make you squirm. Stop wishing and start believing.

Wishing is for little girls in pigtails. Wishing is in the fantasy realm and believing is in the action realm. Wishers talk about their dream, but it stays so stagnant that it grows cobwebs. They just don’t believe it enough to take it out of their head and into action. Have you met someone like that? I ran into someone at a holiday party who I had talked with about her dream some months back. I asked her what she had done to move toward her dream since I spoke to her last... “Well, I’ve ‘thought’ about it a lot”, was her answer. That’s a wisher, not a dreamer.

Believing is for achievers. Believing requires you to, as Beth Moore puts it, ‘elasticize your faith until it has stretch marks’. Believers take that leap of faith that is so scary, so challenging that it makes their heart beat hard and their palms sweat. You know you are a believer when you become a doer. “You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith.” Mary Manin Morrissey

Faith and belief, vision, hard work, determination and dedication...those are action words. Stretching yourself will unleash unstoppable power that will propel you toward your dream. Do you want the head and heart rush of that unstoppable power? I don’t know any dream that wouldn’t take you to a new place, but it’s never easy. You have to be willing to step outside of your comfort zone to get there.

What one thing can you DO today that will move your dream to the believe column? Register a domain name for a new business? Call a potential partner and set up a meeting? Record an audio product? Draft the outline for a book? Fill in your blank here.

Start believing and get going. And, as Mike Litman loves to say…”You don’t have to get it right, you just have to get it going.” But, you DO have to get it going if you want to dream to be more than a wish.

How to Be and Get Dream Partners for Success: Secret #18 Mentor Adoption

"We can help a person to be himself by our own willingness to steep ourselves temporarily in his world, in his private feelings and experiences. By our affirmation of the person as he is, we give him support and strength to take the next step in his own growth." Clark Moustakas . I struggled for months trying to learn the deep dark secrets of internet marketing. I had been a consultant and a coach for 28 years, but had always gotten my business by old school methods. When I started the Redwood Sisterhood, the only thing new to me was internet marketing. That’s all. That was enough. I didn’t know what I didn’t know and was quickly overwhelmed by the learning curves. I started ‘guru hopping’. Taking this class and that one, trying to learn what I needed to learn. It was confusing, frustrating and time consuming.

I prayed to be adopted by a guru. I even sent out a post to some of the guru’s that I had been learning from asking them to adopt me, please. I needed someone to show me what they knew and to save me from some of the growing pains. I wanted my learning to be cut short by their wisdom and experience. It took a long time to find someone to adopt me.

I did finally find the support that I needed and it really did leap frog me into a new level. Through this experience I learned something really important. The secret to leap-frogging to success is to grab onto the ankles of a mentor and hang on for dear life as they fly above, taking you to the next level.

Seek someone who has more experience and who knows more than you in your field. Get close to them, learn what they know, do what they do and then make it yours. Mike and David have helped me tremendously. I am still learning from them daily and I am grateful.

Get the attention of someone that you need help from who is at a level of success that is higher than yours and ask for their help. Get close enough that they feel invested in your success. Mentorship is not one way. Your success is a reflection on their success, so they will want to help you succeed. Your testimonials will boost their success and their help will boost yours.

But, once you have reached a new level, it’s your turn to be a mentor for someone else. That’s what it means to be a dream partner. It’s a beautiful success circle.

If you are tired of guru hopping and would like to be adopted by a mentor, I would love to be your dream partner. Start by going to http://www.PattySadallah.com/sq . Let’s leap frog together in 2010!