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Everyone needs success partners to come along side and help them to achieve the dreams that they envisioned for themselves. I am the Dream Partner Catalyst because I come along side small businesses, nonprofits and faith-based organizations and leaders and help propel them toward their dream visions. I hope you find these posts encouraging!

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

How to Be and Get Dream Partners for Success: Secret #22 Get Focused

“It's not what's happening to you now or what has happened in your past that determines who you become. Rather, it's your decisions about what to focus on, what things mean to you, and what you're going to do about them that will determine your ultimate destiny.” Tony Robbins.

My mother is a photographer by hobby. So, we always had cameras lying around the house when I was growing up. Not the kind of cameras that we have today that automatically focus for you. But, the kind of cameras where you had to dial the big round lens in your hand back and forth slightly until the image that you wanted to capture was in perfect clarity.

Wouldn’t it be cool if our minds had an auto-focus like the cameras today, and we would always focus perfectly on the goal, the dream and the possibilities?

Unfortunately, while camera’s today have auto-focus capabilities, our minds need some manual focus attention. Do you struggle with focus? Maybe you focus perfectly, but on the wrong things; like your fears and obstacles. You focus on the challenges and not the possibilities. Just like a camera, what you focus on is what you see clearly. If you spend all of your time seeing only the challenges, guess what? You will only experience challenges. First you focus on something, which focused attention brings it into your life, then that activity leads to your future.

Maybe your problem with focus has nothing to do with negativity or fears at all. Maybe your problem is that your dreams are simply too general to have any focus. That’s like looking through the lens of the camera and dialing the lens to blurry. There is an image there, but it’s too distorted to see. You are not going to move quickly toward a blurry future, so you don’t move. “Most people have no idea of the giant capacity we can immediately command when we focus all of our resources on mastering a single area of our lives.” Tony Robbins.

Let’s get some focus here. Close your eyes and imagine yourself holding a camera to your dream. You are dialing the lens to see yourself being, living, blessing people and being blessed by your dream. Who do you see? What are you doing? How do you know that you are having the desired impact? If you start to see obstacles, see yourself overcoming them. Snap some pictures. cha chee… cha chee …cha chee .. (my sound affect for picture snapping in case you didn’t follow me. LOL)

Now journal or draw what you saw. Keep that picture alive and take one step toward it every day. You can live your dream. Get and stay focused.


  1. Sharon Fenster, Shoestring Creative Grp, NYCJanuary 14, 2010 at 6:21 AM

    I have taken more seminars then I care to remember that promulgate the use of journaling and mind-maps. Sadly neither of these techniques ever worked for me. Does this sound like the beginning of a cynical treatise? Not at all! What I am about to share with you is my good fortune with a technique I call "Dream Strategizing."

    Time and again I have had raging success by first,talking up a storm with friends and colleagues about my dreams and desires. Remember--speaking your deepest "wants" is the first step towards reinforcing in your consciousness, that your long-held dreams are indeed possible. Second, look at your past achievements--big and small. Give yourself credit for each of them. Use them as positive reference points. Think to yourself that if you were able to accomplish these things, you can get certainly get others. Next, i have come up with a dream plan...envisoning progressive steps leading to my goal. As you approach the finish line to building your mental outline, call yourself to action. Be fearless! Be bodacious! Remember what you have done in the past. Let those thoughts propel you towards your goal. Your mind and determination is your most powerful tool. Now is the time to use it to your advantage--let it get you moving in the direction of your dreams!

    And now the final step in your preparation. Surround yourself with positive people. You are certain to come across those who will tell you that what you want is impossible...can't be done. Keep away from them! Find a Dream Partner who can support you. Someone you can check in with and share your progress. Someone who can can help you buffer the bumps along the way. Keep in mind that you may have different Dream Partners at different times in your journey. Have the wisdom to use each of them!

  2. Sharon,

    Thanks for sharing. Obviously you know how to be a dream partner. I would encourage you to join the Redwood Sisterhood community where women support eachother's dreams. http://www.RedwoodSisterhood.com and click on the Why join tab to compare membership options. I hope to see you contributing to our community with thoughtful assistance like you have with this comment.
    Thanks for taking the time to read and post your Dream Strategizing process.


    Patty Sadallah