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Everyone needs success partners to come along side and help them to achieve the dreams that they envisioned for themselves. I am the Dream Partner Catalyst because I come along side small businesses, nonprofits and faith-based organizations and leaders and help propel them toward their dream visions. I hope you find these posts encouraging!

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Everything you Do and Don’t Do Brands You


”We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit” – Aristotle. People are watching you. You may not even be aware of how much people are paying attention to you. I got a call a while back from a man that had been “watching” me on Linkedin for about a month. He was reading my posts and looking at my website. He finally contacted me about an opportunity because he decided that he liked what I represented and it was consistent with the character of the person for which he was looking. It made my day that I had passed his test.

That encounter got me thinking about something that I learned recently. I attended a training meeting that Christine Zust had a few weeks ago where she said that “Everything you do brands you.” (The title of her impeding book). She shared that our consistent behaviors begin to communicate to our audience who we are and what they can expect from us. She challenged the audience to be thoughtful and intentional about sending branding messages. She really reinforced for me how much people pay attention and draw conclusions about people and organizations based upon consistent messages. I look forward to getting her book when she releases it.

At that meeting, I was sitting next to a wise marketing expert by the name of Larry Mattes who contributed; “Everything that you DON’T do also brands you.“ It made me think of a local organization in town. Unfortunately, because of one of my monthly obligations, I need to work with this organization. I schedule meetings that they don’t put on their schedule. They don’t answer emails or phone calls. Whenever I think of this group, I think of poor communication. If someone asked me for feedback about them, I would never recommend them. So, they have built a negative reputation that brands them to me as unresponsive, irresponsible and rude.

If someone was watching you for a month without your knowledge, would they have more to say about what you do, or what you don’t do? Would they be able to accurately describe who you are and what you do? What messages do you hope that you are sending? What can you do to be sure that those are the branding images that people have of you and your organization?
Begin by asking your clients what one word comes to mind when they think of you or your organization. If the words they use are what you had hoped they would say, then your brand is in good shape. If they answer something less than what you would hope. Ask them for more feedback and begin to say and do things consistently that will move them toward your desired brand image. Remember, your clients and potential clients are watching you!

Friday, September 24, 2010

Stop Trying Too Hard


“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” ~ Lao Tzu. When I was in my 20’s I had a friend who was desperate to get married. She wanted it more than anything. She wanted it too much. She was so intense when she met guys that she scared them off. When she turned 30 she gave up. She decided that she was OK with being single. She was too weary of the ‘hunt’ and she really did seem to have peace about it. But, then the weirdest thing happened. As soon as she gave up the notion that she HAD to get married, she met Mr. Right.

Are you trying too hard for your dream? Are you desperate for it? If so, you may be sending a vibe that is unintended and undesired. Relax, enjoy the ride. Let go any unrealistic expectations of success that may be causing you undue stress. Stop comparing yourself to others and compare yourself to your yesterday self. Work daily toward your dream, but don’t let it overwhelm you.

A clenched fist cannot hold anything, so relax the grip and open your hands. Watch what happens.

Monday, September 20, 2010

Need a Little Wisdom from the Doctor?


Here are a few of my favorite Dr. Seuss Quotes to brighten your day and encourage you. Dr. Seuss Rocks!

"Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You." Dr. Seuss

"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." Dr. Seuss

"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." Dr. Seuss

"The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go." Dr. Seuss

"I like nonsense, it wakes up the brain cells." Dr. Seuss

"You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. Dr. Seuss

"You're on your own. And you know what you know. You are the guy who'll decide where to go." Dr. Seuss

"Today is your day! Your mountain is waiting. So... get on your way." Dr. Seuss

"If you never did, you should. These things are fun, and fun is good. " Dr. Seuss

I hope you found at least one of these to be exactly what you needed today! I know I did!



Thursday, September 9, 2010

Do you have these Success Disabilities?


“Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing on one's own sunshine. “ ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson. I was talking the other day to a group of ladies who were kvetching about the economy and the problems they were having with their businesses. Times are tough, but, I left that meeting thinking about how many ways these ladies and even I get in the way of success. I was in a Beth Moore bible study last night and she was talking about spiritual learning disabilities and it made me think metaphorically about success disabilities. Do you have one or more of these success disabilities?

Success Attention Deficit Disorder- This applies to the person who can focus on a business model or marketing strategy. They get easily distracted by shiny things and don’t follow through with a strategy long enough for it to work. Can any Guru hoppers relate?

Success Hyperactivity Disorder- This is the over busy bee that is running and running and never stopping to measure if what they are doing is returning on the time and money investment. Get off that hamster wheel and be still. Read my Power of the Pause blog post. Quiet can be incredibly clarifying!

Success Dyslexia- These people get things turned around. They think that their business is about them and not about their customers. If you aren’t communicating value from your customer’s point of view, you may be suffering from this one.

Success Vision Impairment- Are you near sighted in your business? Are you only able to see things close up? You may be missing opportunities that are just beyond your driveway. Can you be serving in another city or to another type of population? Or how about far cited? Are there opportunities under your nose that you aren’t able to see? Ask others to be your glasses and give you some perspective.

Success Hearing Impairment- Are you customers trying to tell you something and you just aren’t listening? What about your industry? Are there trends that you may be missing? Ask for feedback and listen to what people have to say. Don’t be stubborn like my Aunt and not wear your hearing aid. People can tell when you aren’t listening.

I don’t know about you, but I know that I can be guilty of a few of these success disabilities. The first step in overcoming any disability is to admit that you have one. Then, take steps to overcome it. What can you do to overcome the one that is getting in your way? Don’t stand in your own sunshine!

Friday, September 3, 2010

What is the Magic Word? Not Abracadabra


When my brother Dan is not being an aerospace engineer, he is a volunteer magician. He has been doing magic since he was 14; one of his many passions. I will never forget when my daughter Leah was 3 and he was the magician at her birthday party. He turned an orange handkerchief into a goldfish right before her eyes. Unfortunately, the fish didn't make it by the next day. Leah said that turning into a fish from a handkerchief must have been too much for the poor thing. What a precious memory.

Right before the fish transformation, Dan asked the kids; "What is the magic word?" "Abracadabra?", one enthusiastic kid offered. "Open Sesame" another guessed. "No, think, you know what the magic word is", he encouraged. Finally, after a couple more misses, one of the kids squealed "PLEASE and THANK YOU". "Right!" he said, and then gave her a special toy for guessing correctly and then reminded the kids to always use the magic words.

It's important for us to use the magic words with our customers too. Please let me know how I can serve you better. Please let me know what you think of my service. Please allow me to help you with your problem. Thank you so much for being a customer. Thank you for letting me know what your real experience is of my service. Thank you so much for your referral.

We can't be great without please and thank you. Are you using these magic words enough? Who can you use them with today?

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Power of Pause


“Sometimes the most urgent thing you can possibly do is take a complete rest.” ~ Ashleigh Brillian. This month, I decided to ‘get off the hamster wheel’ and take a break from some of my regularly scheduled obligations so that I could pray, rest and regain some strength. Don’t you sometimes just get weary of the race sometimes? You get so busy that you don’t stop to get a little perspective on things.

I bet that it’s been nearly two years since I have given myself permission to take that kind of break. Pausing like that is like taking a broom to the attic of your brain and sweeping out all of the cobwebs. You begin to notice things that were there all along, but you were too busy to see them.

What can happen when you take a pause? Here are some possible side effects of your pause:

  • Clarity of purpose for the direction that you are going.
  • Something new: A new service or a new population to serve that you hadn’t thought of before.
  • An opportunity for your head and your heart to get back into sync.
  • Renewed strength for the journey.
  • A greater appreciation and gratitude for your blessings.

Whether you find renewed strength, or a new road, taking the time to pause is like filling your gas tank when you are running on fumes.

It’s not easy to jump off a treadmill that is on top speed, but no one can run at that pace forever. Think about it, if you really were running a treadmill at top speed, you would have a heart attack if you didn’t jump off.

I’m not talking about taking a vacation where you bring your laptop and work half the time either. I’m talking about really stopping the work, stepping away completely and getting time to rest, relax and renew. Empty your head of your daily obligations. Spend your time praying, meditating, and getting a massage, napping, journaling. Get in touch with the feelings of gratitude for your family, your health, your God, your gifts and nature.

I thought that I would get a renewed strength for the journey, and I did, but I also found a new road for the journey. In the midst of the pause something totally new began to happen. A new idea had a chance to form in my head and heart. I thought I would be doing one thing, and wound up finding energy in something totally different. (Stay tuned, as I put some flesh on the bone of that idea, I’ll be sharing it with you when it’s ready to share.)

Taking a pause is a choice. Choose to pause and see what can happen for you.

Monday, August 9, 2010

Leave a Selfless Legacy


“I may be here for a short while, gone tomorrow into oblivion or until the days come to take me away. But, in whatever part you play, be remembered as part of a legacy...of sharing dreams and changing humanity for the better. It's that legacy that never dies.” Unknown.

“Makin’ memories and changin’ lives”. That’s what our fast talking, long haired white water rafting guide Doug said was his purpose in life. And, boy does he LIVE it. Our family just got back from the most amazing vacation in the West Virginia New River Gorge. We signed up for the ‘Lower New” white water rafting adventure (the one for newbies) and Doug had about 20 minutes to prepare us for what would be one of the coolest experiences that I have ever had on a vacation. He talked so fast that I could hardly process his words. But in that brief time, he told stories, gave us key safety instructions, told more cow jokes than I thought existed and had me smiling the entire time. He LOVED his job, his mission in life. He knew that he played a key role in the making of the perfect vacation for people. It was about us, the vacationers, always about us.

I started thinking about Doug and the legacy that he is leaving; the impact that he had on me whether he was aware of it or not. I realize that we all leave a legacy, good or bad, intentionally or unintentionally. We are all being observed by others and those observations lead to conclusions about us that are indelible impressions in people’s minds.

I was thinking about the most common denominator of whether a legacy would be positive or negative and my hypothesis is that selflessness leads to a positive legacy and selfishness leads to a negative legacy. Test this out as I have in my own life. Think about the people in your life that have been your heroes; the people who have left the most positive lasting impression on you. Were they selfless? My list sure was. Now, think about those people who leave a bad taste in your memory mouth. Were they selfish? Hmm hmmnn. Yep. Mine too.

When you are gone, what stories do you want people to be telling about the impact you had on their lives?

If you want to have more impact in your work, your mission in life, put others first. Serve for their benefit, not for your own. Not only will you have more success in your business and your life, but you will be making a difference in the world. You will be leaving a positive legacy. Examine your motives. Are you in business just to make money? Or do you believe that what you are doing is really helping people?

What kind of legacy are you leaving?

p.s. If you want to have a great family vacation in West Virginia, check out http://www.adventurewestvirginia.com . In addition to white water rafting, there is a zip line adventure across the river, rock climbing and rappelling, horseback riding, ATV tours, paintball and more.